Get Organized

When I was younger no one told me how big my dreams were allowed to be or that I could be what I choose. I finally realize that they can be as big I want, and that I can choose to be whomever I wanted. Every big success started off as a big dream. Look at Bill Gates, Bethenny Frankel and Sir Richard Branson. I realized recently that my dreams are BIG!!

I have been very nervous over the past week, wondering how I will achieve the things I want. In order to get my life back on track I definitely had to get organized. I am not the type to expect things to just happen for me, miracles only happen if one works for them.

If you are like I am and you want a job then look for one, and be aggressive in your search. Revise your CV and send it out to the companies you WANT to work for. Ask as many people as possible if they can help you reach the goal you are trying to reach; there is no shame in asking. If they can help you they probably will and if they can’t then there is always another way. After all, all roads will lead you to Rome if that is the place you want to be.

If the idea of getting started scares you like it does me, start small by writing a daily to do list. Think of each task and not the overall picture or final goal. Compose the list before you sleep or in the morning as soon as you wake. As you go through your day working on the tasks tick them off.  

He who has begun has the work half done!

Find Yourself.. Don't Settle

Many people have no idea what they want to do with their life. They just accept whatever they get. Work at any job that comes their way even if they hate it. Marry the first person that comes along just because it is an available option. I did that for a little while. I hated it!! I had no idea who I was, what I liked, or even what I wanted. I settled for whatever came along. When in university I studied accounting! The most boring subject because people pushed me to do it. When I graduated I worked at a bank; I have to say I had never been more stressed and bored. Bored, not only with my work but also with who I had turned into. I woke up every morning dreading the fact that I had to go into work. I fell asleep one night with a single thought in my head "no amount of money is worth me feeling the way I feel everyday".

I woke up, and quit!

I had decided then and there that I wanted to do something in fashion. I love clothes, shoes, and finding amazing stores that no one had even heard of. Finding items that were unique. I loved colours lots of colour in my life, and sketching in the mornings-a cup of coffee in my hand with the windows open and the cool breeze coming in. All of which I couldn't do if I were still at my old job. Where I couldn't leave my desk for long enough to get myself a decent cup of coffee, I couldn't open the windows of my dark, dingy, grey office as they were nailed shut!! 

Suddenly I was free. I could breath. I could explore what I wanted to do with my life! It was so scary but an invigorating feeling rushed through me. I was scared of the idea of being penniless; my pride wouldn't allow me to ask my parents for any money. Luckily I've saved up a little, and could live on it until another job or opportunity came along. This time I would be more picky about what I chose.

It's an amazing time in my life! A great opportunity to reinvent myself. The self I once lost..

Don't Fight

I am 25 and I only just realise that some things aren’t worth fighting for. Friends that keep rubbing yours exs in your face must be Xed. Random people that enter your life and quietly lay in the background are not actually your friends; DELETE. Friends that expect you to be their friend with benefits; OUT! And those losers that enter your life and send you mixed signals-because they have secret girlfriends; Run! As fast as you little legs can carry you.  Don’t ever look back.

Your life has to be about you!  And its okay to be selfish once in a while. Take some time to think which people are worth keeping. Go through your blackberry lists, iphones and other personal communication devices and get rid of the extra baggage. Its scary but it is totally worth it because it makes moving forward with life easier than it would otherwise be.

Today I did just that; I went through my blackberry and deleted all the people I kept around out of fear of being alone! I deleted the people that aren’t really my friends (the ones that should be on facebook not my personal phone).  The decision to delete some was so easy. It’s those who I gave importance to that were difficult to get rid of.

It was totally worth it!

After doing all of this my life finally has a higher standard! So I took a few minutes to breath and take it in. I will only allow a certain calibre of people in. Those who care, ask, listen, are there, and more importantly friends you can depend on, to stand by you when all things fall apart.