Miles to go before I sleep..

For 7 years of my life I was in relationships, no breaks in between. Serious, hot and heavy, long term relationships. I woke up one day alone. I had no idea how to be single. It was the most difficult time of my life. All my happiness was dependent on others. It took me 3 years to learn that life goes on and happiness is a state of mind. You will it, you choose it and so it is. You have to make yourself happy. Don’t expect people to do that for you; do it for yourself. 

Last year this time I sat down alone and wrote a bucket list of all the things I wanted to achieve in my life before I died. At the top of my list is this quote “but I have promises to keep and miles to go before I sleep” by RF. Inspiring words!! I found that list in my wallet a few days ago and crossed off 10 of the things on it so far.

I stopped letting my life just pass me by. I am living everyday doing things I want and love to do. I am not allowing myself to dwell on past mistakes and relationships. I am not even limiting myself by telling myself I don’t have time, or I can’t or by allowing my laziness to get the best of me. One must make oneself happy. 

If your life has turned into a big routine then take up activities that would add to the quality to your life, such as, rock climbing or even baking. Start working on a project that is challenging, that will give you some sort of fulfillment and satisfaction. Keep yourself and your mind busy with things that make you happy, then you will let go of all the nonsense that has held you back. Don't forget to be thankful for your health and your life, and for the fact that you can help yourself get out of any dump. 

I promise that when you are most comfortable within your life everything else will just fall into place.   

The Rules

Over the past few years I have developed a standard set of life rules that have increased the quality and standard of my life. These are as follows:

• Workout 4 hours a week. It’s the best way to clear my mind, release my frustration, and feel sexy in my own skin.  I push myself to go to the gym even when I am tired, lazy or am having a bad day. My skin always tends to clear up when I do. My hair feels softer and shinier. I always feel like I am full of energy when I am done. I respect my body enough to know that THERE IS ALWAYS TIME FOR EXCERSIZE.

• Make a choice to eat healthy. I am not saying I never reach for that plate of French fries! I do!! But I do so in moderation, once a week I pick a treat so as not to feel like I am on a diet. I don’t allow myself to get hungry; I always have in hand tiny snacks like a hand full of nuts, or berries and yoghurt. I take a healthy goody cool box with me when I go to the beach so as not to have an excuse to eat junk. I choose a salad and am picky with the dressing when I’m at restaurants. It’s never easy to make the healthy choice. But I must admit it is absolutely worth it.

• Read. For people like me who aren’t book lovers, and who will never be a part of Oprahs book club! Reading is not something I automatically do. So I find ways to make reading more attractive to myself. I find a book that I will be able to get through. No need to be embarrassed by the books content. No matter how shameful it may be, I will find a book that will interest me!!!  I read one article a day out of a reliable newspaper and read twitter news feeds. Surprisingly, I always manage to participate in social conversations about the latest events. I believe in reading a little about a lot; a little bit out of many different topics is better then a lot about a little. In doing so my mind is more open, and aware, tolerant, accepting. Try it!

• Make time for your family and friends. If you’re the type of person that is always too busy for loved ones, don’t expect them to be around when you’re not busy! You make time for them, so that they make time for you. Don’t use your husband and kids as an excuse! Don’t use your job as an excuse! Don’t meet a guy or girl and cut out your friends and family; if you breakup I promise they will not be around to pick up the pieces.  The most important part of this rule is, when you make plans make sure they are definite plans, not maybe plans. No one wants to be your maybe plan.